Hello Dear Ones,

I hope everyone is doing well and keeping safe. Chinese New Year (aka the Spring Festival) is just around the corner, and I take this opportunity to wish all of you who celebrate a Happy, Healthy and Prosperous New Year!

It’s a delightful thing to see the many new changes and activities in the Jai Institute for Parenting community. When I opened my email this morning, I saw an email from Jai saying that parenting coaches who graduated from their certification program can now have our names and practices listed on their coaches directory on their website. I think this is a wonderful thing, therefore I wrote a short bio and submitted my request. Below is what I wrote, and I think it’s a good opportunity to share this here for new friends who don’t know me yet.

Hi! My name is Meng Y. Yew. I’m from Malaysia, and I spent my university years and early working years in the United States, then moved around a few Asian countries and am now living and working in China. Due to my background and life experiences, I have deep understanding of the dynamics and special situations faced by parents who have families from Western and Eastern cultures, especially those from the US and Chinese ethnic backgrounds. I also connect with parents in the corporate world, especially dads who are struggling to find a balance between work and family, because I used to work in multinational companies and I had several years of experience being a stay-at-home dad.

I am a dad to two beautiful children, i.e. one 12-year-old daughter and one 3-year-old boy. I used to lead an extremely busy corporate life in multinational companies, and my inability to find a healthy balance between work and family eventually had serious negative implications in my family life. I knew I had to do something, and in my search for parenting help, I found the Jai Institute for Parenting and I eventually completed their certification program as a Certified Parenting Coach in 2018.

I love being able to practice what I learn in the field of parenting, and I find that I love being a coach and helping other parents who are struggling with parenting challenges like I used to be and am still struggling.

I believe that almost all parenting problems can be alleviated if parents are willing to start looking for solutions within the parents themselves instead of hoping or wanting the change to come from the children. I always say that if we as parents are not able to solve our parenting problems, then expecting the solution to come from our children is almost like wishing for miracles.

Even if the issues clearly seem to be focused on the children, I still believe there are lots that we as parents can do without placing our expectations and hope solely on our children to make improvements or changes.

When we as parents take good care of ourselves, we definitely stand a much greater chance of helping our children and enjoying the relationship with our children, and even cherishing ourselves and our children just as they are.

When I’m not teaching or coaching, I enjoy playing tennis, watching films and vacationing with my family.  The world is such a beautiful place, and I hope we enjoy ourselves living here while bringing joy to others whenever possible.  Take wonderful care!